As adults we sometimes assume we know what is going on in other people’s lives. Let’s face it, we don’t.

Babies can’t talk and when they are crying we need to guess what is wrong: are they hungry, do they have a stomach, toothing or some big business in the diapers? As babies grow and learn to talk, we sometimes wrongly assume that we know how others are. However, when we ask someone “How are you?” we mostly hear the usual “good”. Seldomly people want to talk about their real challenges right away and it usually takes some serious digging to find out. 

The most obvious assumptions about others are taken in car traffic. If someone is driving too slow or too agressive I am quick to assume that the person behind the wheel must be a very stupid or strange person. In reality however we do not have the tinies idea of what is going on with that person. They could have a baby in their car that is hurt and rush to the hospital, their navigation system might have broken down or they just got the news that their best friend died and they are highly distracted. We do not know and thus should not judge them. 

A friend of mine who is driving frequently, told me recently how she decided to positively handle the frequent aggressions that she faces in traffic. She decided to send a couple of air kisses to the other drivers when there is an aggressive situation. Reportedly, the other drivers are perplexed. I guess this never happened to them before in traffic. I think this is an excellent idea. Let’s not immediately judge others. Let’s take a step back and assume they are great people but have a good reason for their sometimes seemingly strange behavior. And then let’s send them some air kisses, no matter how strange they drive or even if they honk at us. If they cannot see us, go ahead and send some “mind kisses” and wish them all the best.

A cheerful heart is good medicine

Proverbs 17:22

Take care and trust that all will turn to the best, Adi